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WHAT'S UP (WHATSAPP) IN HOMES?


So many homes have recently turned to mere houses, some houses of conflicts and malice, many marriages in ruins, family altars, Parents-children relationships extinct! What's up (WhatsApp) in homes?

 As a Marriage Counsellor and Teen Mentor, in 2017 alone I had to deal with more issues of broken marriages and teenage rebellions in homes than I have had to in ten years! A constant and main factor in all of these  is WHATSAPP (what's up?) in homes.

"Mom and Dad no longer have time for me. They both get back from work and jump on their phones chatting on the different groups they both belong or with friends. Nothing enters dad's ears when he is on  WhatsApp, I had to create my own world. Now they want  in. I am sorry ma'am, too late".    Michael 15 years.

WHAT'S UP IN HOMES?

"My wife has absolutely no control when on WhatsApp, it's her second God. Nothing or no one matters anymore. Foods get burnt, house unkempt, shopping undone or done late etc. We have no more personal discussions when driving, she's on WhatsApp.  She jumps on her phone immediately after love making, she wakes up in the morning, it's WhatsApp and the last thing at night, it's WhatsApp. Madam, I gave up on our marriage long ago. Let her continue with WhatsApp, I have sorted myself out. Mr. Paul. WHAT'S UP (WhatsApp) IN HOMES?

"My husband is a crazy WhatsApp addict! I can't cope anymore.  I am done competing with an inanimate object! I suffered infidelity for over 10 years of our marriage in his hands, now I have to deal with both. No family alter, no family discussions, no husband and wife relationships anymore! My husband pings in traffic light! Yes! It's àthat bad. Sometimes in traffic! Just a few minutes go slow he is on WhatsApp. That's not all... My husband invites guests over to the house and he entertains them by being engrossed in WhatsApp. Ma, God knows I am saying the truth. when I try to bring the family together in PRAYERS, I have caught  my husband not once or twice using his WhatsApp! He is that bad. Sitting beside my husband in church, my heart bleeds when I  watch him regularly during preaching, sometimes during prayers  as he chats away. We went to visit a friend of his in the hospital once, critical care unit for that matter, he was on WhatsApp 85% of the time. I went on holiday with my husband and the only time I enjoyed him was when we were out without the WiFi . Connecting flights from one State to the other was worse for me. He connects to every available WiFi and turns his back. I remembered once at one of the airports in the USA during one of our holidays, I tried starting a conversation while we waited for our flight to be announced  but WhatsApp won! I got up beside my husband and was gone for 37 good minutes and my husband didn't notice! Madam you can't understand. He was very sick in pain on the hospital bed and was still on WhatsApp.  The doctor had to threaten to seize his phone if he didn't drop it because he needed to be off that phone and rest for his medications to work! He goes to the toilet with his phone, on the dining table he is there with it. No more relationship with the kids or myself. Right now we have all left him to it. Our 'house' became so hot recently when he had issues with his phone for a few days and couldn't go on WhatsApp. My kids and I had to go around the house with extreme caution, we minded our speeches and actions. As soon as he got a new phone, the house came back to normal. He is willing to let go of all he has for his relationship with WhatsApp.  No one matters to him. We used to have it good but it's all gone. At least for now. His life is complete without his family but not without his phone. I am not exaggerating ma. If you want peace to reign, do not complain about his addiction to his phone because he will attack you. Honestly, no woman or family should go through what my kids and I are going through with him. I do not need help ma, he does. He still doesn't believe he is the one with the problem, you can imagine that!" Mrs. Olanrewaju. WHAT'S UP (WHATSAPP) IN HOMES ?

Need I say more? Go check out your Google play store or Windows 's Market place... a WhatsApp update awaits you. This means WhatsApp will always UPDATE and get better. ...and you? "DOWNDATE' your marriage, family, career and relationships especially the ones that matter most? Hmmmm!
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Comments

  1. Omolara Eniola Adelokun1 July 2019 at 03:57

    You lie not sis. God help and deliver us from social media generally. No one is innocent here. We are all guilty only that our spouses are more tolerant than one another

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  2. bimbohchekwas.blogspot1 July 2019 at 04:16

    So apt sis. Thanks.

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  3. Paul Adesso11 March 2021 at 12:55

    What should be the solution ma?

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